The Problem
The original question, which the OP keeps rolling back, is off-topic for a number of reasons defined in our Help Center, including:
"your question is just a rant in disguise: “______ sucks, am I right?”
The OP says: "I blame our Agile approach for encouraging this particular problem, am I wrong?"
"there is no actual problem to be solved: “I’m curious if other people feel like I do.”
The OP says (emphasis mine): "I'm interested to hear opinions on where you think process has failed us here."
Constructive subjective questions...have a constructive, fair, and impartial tone
The original post does not exhibit these characteristics.
It may also be closable as "Too Broad" and "Opinion-Based" even if it were edited to avoid the preceding issues.
The Solution
A number of people have provided modest edits which would enable the question to be on-topic and within community guidelines. The OP continues to roll them back. As a result, the question should simply be put on hold as off-topic for any one of the given reasons, at which time it can either be edited to conform to site guidelines, or eventually closed.
The extended discussions in comments should be vetted for relevance and tone. Comments are not for extended discussion, and should be cleaned up or moved when they become clutter or when they become too acrimonious. This requires moderator action (see blockers below).
Blockers
However, despite close votes and flags from a number of community members, we seem to lack sufficient community/moderator participation at this time to handle the situation properly. We don't have a critical mass of close privileges, and flags are not being accepted or rejected. This may need to be brought up as a separate meta post.
Secondly, the sheer volume of comments makes it unlikely that the comment issue will be successfully addressed by individual flags or community moderation. Unless the diamond mods or the community want to be flooded with dozens of comment-flags, this is something that again needs explicit moderator intervention.